I am haunted by the images in my head.
Time in the hospital with people I love dying.
People I love being treated poorly by medical professionals hamstrung by a faulty system.
Over the years I had hoped that Amercian medicine would advance, and we could see treatments that would provide better outcomes.
What I have seen in my own personal experience may not accurately reflect what is going on in the world but for the most part modern medicine is a shitshow at best.
Doctors and nurses are overworked. Hospitals and medical facilities are just a business.
Many people simply don’t care. Transactional doctors in hospitals (Hospitalists) visit patients perform their transactions and leave.
Many younger doctors don’t seem to understand that psychology is tied to wellness. They may look at people as things. Empathy is broken in their brains. (Empathy deficit is a real problem)
In regard to my grandmother young Doctor said, “what you want me to do, she old?”
In regard to my mother young Doctor said, “she’s a million-dollar patient, we aren’t going to do any more for her today.”
In regard to my stepfather young Doctor said, “What outcome do you hope to achieve if you continue to fight on?” (In other words, why fight to live?)
Often, we are treated like cogs in a medical machine. Even medical systems like the VA are Eff’d. The medical system for the VA in NJ is seemingly well run with medical professionals on a mission. The same VA in Florida and Texas are a train wreck. It is inconsistent.
When people choose a profession, if they realize at some point, they’ve made an error in personal judgement, they have an option to find another profession. They don’t have to stay in the medical field and act like assholes. It’s not just doctors. Case workers in hospitals we’ve recently dealt with want to throw our family in a wheel barrel and dump them on the street.
If this represents the one of the best healthcare systems in the world, I want better than the best.
Signs in the hallway thanking the staff for all they do. Moving living people out of the hospital into other care facilities without giving any thought to what happens to the patients as a result. If we had a system that wasn’t based solely on money for care, what would it look like?
There are some great Doctors, nurses and medical professionals out there, but they will also tell you of their struggles and how the system itself has them spinning.
One thing I find fascinating is that it is perfectly acceptable and legal to kill a person slowly over time and torcher them, but euthanasia is not legal in all states. I wish someone could explain that to me.
Grandma can be shoved in the corner of a room on a drip, and she can dissolve into nothing, but she can’t choose to end her own life and go out in her terms. What kind of society are we living in?
In the meantime:
Dealing with difficult medical professionals can be a challenging experience, but it’s important to remember that you have the right to receive compassionate care. Here are some strategies that can help you advocate for yourself and your family:
- Prepare for appointments: Before your appointment, write down any questions or concerns you have. This can help you stay focused during the appointment and ensure that all of your concerns are addressed.
- Speak up: Don’t be afraid to ask questions or express your concerns during the appointment. If you feel like the medical professional is not addressing your concerns, speak up and ask for clarification.
- Seek out second opinions: If you are not satisfied with the care you are receiving, consider seeking out a second opinion. This can provide you with a fresh perspective and help you make more informed decisions about your care.
- Get support: Dealing with difficult medical professionals can be stressful. Consider reaching out to friends, family or a support group for emotional support.
Remember, advocating for yourself and your family is an important part of receiving quality medical care. Don’t be afraid to speak up and seek out the care you deserve.
In our experience, we have heard from many that we are “good advocates.” In some cases, the term “good advocate” sounds the same as “bless your heart.”
For all of us, I hope things change but, in the meantime, stay healthy and if you get sick, die quickly, you’ll be better off.
I always seek to remain positive to the best of my ability but being in the hospital and other care facilities for the better part of this past year has been draining. My sister and I have met with many very kind people, but we have also seen a medical system that makes no sense and isn’t designed for wellness. In addition to this, we have seen many issues and problems with other medical systems like the VA. I have close friends that had such a bad experience, they won’t go.
We are fixated with war, political garbage and money as a people, and we have enough to fight with nature alone. Yet, we waste our energy and resources, and it is painful to watch. It is painful to see especially when we are holding the hand of our friends and loved ones. I can’t understand it. I can’t accept it. I hope you can’t either.