Please tell me but if you do, understand the risk

True safety in communication comes from a culture of respect, empathy, and mutual understanding. Yet, there are intractable problems and consequences of sharing what you believe. If you have a strong opinion about something and you are firm in your thinking, what do you do? If you acknowledge something in order to heal or move on, it may not solve a problem. I was advising someone who presented […]

I am the Villian

You can’t know the pain I feel because you aren’t me and I am not you. It is true that my pain is greater than your pain. I know this because I feel this pain. I’ve been mistreated not just by you but by society. I am a victim. There is nothing you can do […]

Working Out the Anger

In the morning, I would hide under the covers of the top bunk, ruffling the blankets so it looks like no one is under them.  My mother normally stayed up all night and would fall asleep on the couch. She would wake up and yell for us to get up. Depending on the day, she might wake […]